Get Ready For Venus Retrograde – Tempting Your Dark Side, Be Careful With Your Heart
Take care of yourself, because we’re fast approaching one of the most emotionally challenging and deceptive retrogrades in all of astrology.
As of Oct. 5, 2018, Venus — planet of love, romance, luxury, prosperity, and affection — will begin her apparent spin backwards through orbit, taking our hearts with her. Remember that this planet isn’t all roses, diamonds, and love letters. Oftentimes, she can be jealous, possessive, and vindictive when she’s feeling threatened. And, because Venus retrograde 2018 will begin in Scorpio, an intensely passionate water sign, its effects will find your heart, intuition, and closest relationships.
Because Venus is in retrograde only 7 percent of the time, it’s in retrograde less than any other planet in astrology. This, in and of itself, makes its impact on our universe undeniably strong. And, because its shadow period began on Sept. 2, 2018, there’s a huge chance you’re already feeling its influence. Challenging your ability to give and receive affection, make wise choices with your money, and resist negative temptation, it’s wise to avoid committing to love affairs or lofty purchases during this time. When Venus is in retrograde, she’s presenting you with opportunities that might seem thrilling at first, but will only lead you toward destruction.
YOUR LOVE LIFE WILL BE PUT TO THE TEST
Love is a whirlwind of chaos and confusion during Venus retrograde. If you’re in a relationship, you might face conflict with your partner that puts your commitment in jeopardy. If you’re single, you might be tempted to ignore red flags and give your heart away to someone who isn’t trustworthy. There’s also a chance that lovers or friends from your past will resurface, totally disrupting life as you know it.
Even though these romantic challenges can be severely damaging, remember that Venus is currently bringing every negative emotion in love to the forefront. She’s luring your heart towards danger, and you do have the power to see beyond her ruse. If a situation seems risky, that’s because it is. Do your best to avoid toxic temptation during this time and you’ll avoid much of the effects of Venus retrograde. Your ex is your ex for a reason. If you’re attracted to someone who’s clearly an asshole, do your best to be smart.
BE CAUTIOUS WITH YOUR WALLET AND DON’T OVERSPEND
Although Venus is known for being the planet of love, she’s also the planet of luxury, and during her retrograde, all that glitters is definitely not gold. You might feel tempted to overspend on things you don’t need, giving in to opulence and pleasure when it’s not wise, and feeling insecure about your financial state.
If there’s a non-essential and overly expensive product you’re lusting over, it’s wise to hold off on making the purchase until Venus retrograde is over. By the time this haze of deception has dissipated, you might suddenly realize that that product is a total rip off.
If you’re feeling ashamed of your financial state during Venus retrograde, trust that it’s also because Venus might be making you seem a lot less fortunate than you truly are. Remember that money comes and goes. By no means does your financial state define you. When Venus retrograde has you comparing yourself to the rich and wealthy, try to feel grateful for all that you already have.
CHANNEL YOUR FEELINGS INTO CREATIVE EXPRESSION
All retrogrades are slow, introspective, and contemplative times, but Venus retrograde involves no ordinary introspection. It’s a journey through some of the darkest shadows of your heart, and it will have you oscillating between pain and pleasure as though you’re riding a dangerous, yet exciting roller coaster ride. This energy can be heavily destructive if it isn’t given form or structure. What better a way to channel your emotions than through art, poetry, dance, and self-expression?
The upside of Venus retrograde is that it can also be a wonderfully creative time. Whether you’re feeling aroused, angry, or full of heartache during this period, these emotions are the foundation of some of the greatest works of art known to mankind. Use it to create something beautiful and you’ll look back on this time fondly.
Venus Retrograde: What the Love Planet’s Backspin Means for Your Sign
Trouble in paradise? From October 5 to November 16, 2018, Venus retrograde could interrupt the flow of our most important ties or snap us out of a starry-eyed reverie. Since retrogrades rule the past, ex-lovers (and old issues) can resurface during this six-week cycle.
Every 18 months, Venus—the planet that rules love, harmony and compassion, reverses into retrograde motion. This six-week slowdown can be a tricky time for relationships, when the headlines blare about “Shocking Celebrity Splits!” and our closest ties are tested. If a bond isn’t build of solid stuff, you’ll experience turbulence. While it’s an opportunity to go back and do the necessary work, you’ll see who’s willing to put in that investment…and who only shows up when things are good, fun and easy. Eye-opening to say the least!
Put on your #WarriorofLove gear: Whenever gracious Venus takes a leave of absence, politeness can go out the window. You may notice more rude or brusque behavior, and your own irritation with “stupid human tricks” will flare up faster. It will take conscious effort to be kind and compassionate. Mother Teresa’s famous poem “Anyway” might be worth printing and sticking on the fridge now:
People are often unreasonable, irrational and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
(Read the whole poem here.)
On a positive note, Venus retrograde could bring a refreshing pause to the dramatic scripts of our love stories, helping us step back and regain perspective. Are we truly writing ourselves into suitable romantic roles? And if not, what can we do to recast or change a less-than-stimulating plot line?
Whenever a planet goes retrograde, the directive is to turn inward first: examining our motives, excavating hidden desires, even exhuming a few past demons we haven’t fully dealt with. The prefix “re” is where the magic’s at: revive, reunite, repair, restore, etc.
This year, Venus will spend the first part of its retrograde (from October 5 to 31) in intense, erotic Scorpio, dredging up power struggles, forcing us to look at intimate ties and dangling tempting-yet-toxic “sex with an ex” scenarios in front of some of us.
Then from October 31 to November 16, Venus will back into her home sign of dreamy-eyed Libra, the ruler of committed relationships, mutuality and marriage. Don’t rush to the engagement ring shop or the altar just yet! And be equally cautious about barreling into a breakup.
Venus retrograde demands that you take people off a pedestal and see them through the lens of reality, rather than with rose-colored filters. That can be jarring at first. But is your chief complaint a dealbreaker—or is there something to learn here by addressing those issues together? A wise therapist we know once said, “It’s not that successful couples don’t have conflict, because they do. It’s how they work through it that determines the strength of their relationship.”
Read on to discover how Venus retrograde will impact your sign specifically—and learn how to navigate it with grace and finesse.
What this Venus retrograde will mean for YOUR sign…
Trouble in paradise? Venus backs through your two committed relationship zones, making you second-guess a partner or rethink an arrangement. Couples’ therapy could be helpful. You could delay or break off an engagement. A long-lost love could resurface for a second chance. Maybe the timing is right? Single Aries could use this time to really think about what you want from a partner. If a friend or relative is taking up the lion’s share of your time and energy, consider putting a little more space in the relationship and reserving that room for a romantic relationship instead.
Love, take two? Partnerships get an overhaul—or at least, a little time under the microscope—as your celestial ruler backs through your relationship house until October 31. You could struggle to feel in sync with others, or might finally bring up a sticking point. Be proactive and solution-oriented instead of just complaining or blaming. Resolve old conflicts and seek closure with an ex. From October 31 to November 16, watch for a self-critical or controlling streak as Venus dips into your health and fitness house. As the planet of beauty sounds the call for self-care, nurturing your body and spirit will be the best retrograde remedy. (Just read those Yelp reviews and make sure any spas you visit are hygienic!) Revamp your beauty and skincare, as well as your diet, switching to natural and organic options.
Venus retrograde in your health house could incite stress-fueled body image issues or remind you to get back in touch with the “temple for your soul” by nourishing yourself and moving regularly. Find healthy outlets (affirmations, gentle yoga) for channeling frustration and book those overdue bodywork appointments. Even a ten-minute “express massage” could be a game-changer now. Monitor your tendency to micromanage and nitpick your mate, and steer clear of those fixer-upper types who always want advice but never have much to give in return. From October 31 to November 16, Venus backs into your passion house, which could bring back an ex or dial up the drama. Watch your temper.
Drama alert! Venus in your hotheaded (and hot-blooded) sector until October 31 makes you a loose cannon ready to fire. An ex-flame could contact you; proceed with caution to avoid messy entanglements. From October 31 to November 16, Venus backs into your home sector, disrupting harmony with relatives, roommates or your living situation. If you’re renovating or redecorating, collect fabric and paint swatches and start a few Pinterest boards, but stay in the planning phases to avoid a costly design misstep.
Home is where the HEAT is until October 31, as a cranky Venus camps in your domestic house. Issues with a female—perhaps some mama drama or sibling rivalry—could flare. Double down on the self-care and affirming mantras, as your moods could swing wildly. From October 31 to November 16, tension with a sibling, neighbor or friend could disrupt your groove. If you can’t say something nice, bite your tongue!
Playing devil’s advocate is a dangerous game while Venus reverses through your communication house until October 31. Choose your battles—and your words—to avoid burning bridges. Money and job tension rise when Venus backs into your work house from October 31 to November 16. Avoid borrowing and loaning funds (or property) with friends or lovers. Thinking about splurging on a luxury item for your home or wardrobe? Hold off until the retrograde ends if you can, especially if it’s non-returnable. Shop around and definitely sleep on it!
Arguments about money could erupt while Venus backs through your financial house until October 31. Tension could flare with coworkers or a client. Lock up those credit cards: Impulse purchases could lead to buyer’s remorse, as your normally spot-on style and taste could miss the mark. From October 31 to November 16, Venus is retrograde in Libra, which could leave you feeling misunderstood, confused and in need of personal space. Fly solo and carve out more “me time.” Use this period to reflect on what YOU desire from love, and to work on being less of a people-pleaser.
Time for a break? You need space to reconnect with YOUR needs while Venus backs through Scorpio until October 31. If you’re not feeling beautiful, desirable or magnetic, get really clear about what’s blocking that, and change your focus! From October 31 on, a swoonworthy (but questionably trustworthy) type could sweep you to la-la land as Venus visits your fantasy house. Is this person really a wolf in dream-lover’s clothing? Slow down to avoid finding out the hard way. If you’ve been holding onto a grudge or resentment (#ScorpioIssues) do the tough but necessary work of clearing that up. Forgiveness is not only divine, it will set YOU free from the painful grips of the past.
Wherever you go, there you are. Until October 31, Venus is in your twelfth house of closure and illusions. Clean up your own romantic backyard instead of projecting blame on a mate or looking for the Holy Grail of lovers. Watch for rifts in your social circle when Venus backs into your friendship house October 31 to November 16. Reduce your time on dating apps while Venus retrogrades through this technology-driven sector. Maybe go mingle and meet people in the flesh instead? On a positive note, this could be a great time to reunite with cherished old friends.
Collaboration chaos? A team could lose steam as Venus backspins through your group sector until April 3. Experimenting with an open relationship or online dating could also go awry, so tread (and swipe) lightly. Office politics can consume you after October 31 when Venus backs into your career house. Be careful about mixing business and pleasure! An attraction to someone significantly older or younger than you could pull you into difficult dynamics.
Daddy issues? With Venus retrograde in your paternal zone, resolve childhood dynamics before they taint your current relationship. You may have reservations about the future and need to pause so you can assess whether you want the same thing (and if you don’t, to invent some new long-term goals). An office romance is ill-advised now. After October 31, you crave freedom. Honor your independent spirit but don’t trample someone’s needs in your quest for “space.”
The world is usually your romantic oyster, but you may feel totally out of sync with new people until October 31, while Venus retrogrades through your ninth house of expansion, risk-taking and cross-cultural connections. Committed Pisces could feel claustrophobic now. If you’re traveling, tread lightly with any vacation romances. After October 31, a sexy ex-lover could resurface, tempting you into a taboo tryst. Feeling frumpy? Reconnect with your sensuality (think: massage, dancing, an undies-drawer revamp). Do the inner work to feel attractive again, instead of getting mixed up with a player.
Intuitive Astrology: Venus Retrograde 2018
Venus is the goddess planet, the ruler of love, the overseer of the heart. She represents the divine feminine and encourages us to build connections, create wealth, and find beauty in all that life has to offer.
Out of all the planets, Venus retrogrades the least, so we tend to feel this energy strongly. In fact, Venus retrograde touches us on the most sensitive level of our being, on the level that is our heart.
Our heart is precious. We guard it fiercely, we wear it on our sleeve, we give it away, and sometimes it gets broken. The heart is a delicate thing, and yet this Venus retrograde is here to challenge how we deal with the lessons of the heart.
Many of us walk through life with a mask, with a shield, with an armor that protects us from the outside world. Often this armor is built out of necessity and from life experiences that begin at a young age.
When we first come into this world our heart is open. We are ready to explore, we are ready to love, we are ready to connect with others and find our way. Over the years however, our sensitive hearts find this hard to handle and we begin putting up masks and wearing shields in order to protect ourselves.
These shields are sometimes necessary, but very often they can also block us from diving deep and really connecting with others in a meaningful way. We become fearful of connecting with others or we become socially anxious. We hide away instead of opening to the world and to the people around us.
It is not always possible to walk this earth with our heart on our sleeve, but finding a balance is important. We don’t want to be blocked off, but at the same time life on earth requires us to have some sort of protection.
No matter where you are on the spectrum, this Venus retrograde is going to be challenging you to assess how open or blocked your heart is. This Venus retrograde is going to be asking you to think about your connection with others and to assess whether you are giving too much or too little.
Venus only retrogrades once every 19 months or so, which means that this rare energy is really a gift for all of us to use to our fullest advantage.
Venus will retrograde from October 5- November 15, through the signs of Scorpio and Libra, and each of these constellations will offer a slightly different perspective of the overall lesson.
While Venus moves through Scorpio, we are going to be encouraged to really transform. This is a time where we are going to have to work on making changes in order to continue. This is a time where our hearts are ready for an upgrade and shift in how they have been operating.
If you have found yourself closed off or feeling anxious around others, during this time frame you may decide that it’s time to make some shifts and to work on being a little more open.
Opening your heart is never easy, and requires a lot of trust in yourself and in others, but it is necessary to put yourself out there if you want to make and build connections.
This applies not just to people but also to creative projects, your work, your family; any area of your life can be revamped by opening your heart and allowing yourself to give fully to whatever it is that you are focusing on.
Sometimes in order to find love, to create that passion project, or to take a leap on that business venture, you have to open your heart, you have to be willing to get hurt, stung and everything in between, but if you don’t take that risk, if you don’t put yourself out there, you will never know.
You can pull your beating heart out and lay it there for all the world to see, and even though it may be painful and frightening, good things always seem to come to those who learn how to open their hearts and trust that they will always be guided.
Just like this Venus retrograde will be helping us to open our hearts, it will also be guiding those that need to create better boundaries.
If you find yourself getting taken advantage of, if you find that you are always putting your needs last, if you find that you are constantly drained by the energy of others, it may be time for you to check in and see how much of your energy you are allowing to be sucked away.
Learning to create a shield and have downtime so you are not taking on other people’s energies is so important. Almost all of us are sensitive to other people’s energy on some level, so we have to take measures in order to protect ourselves.
Instead of creating blocks and carrying around heavy armor, it may be better to visualize and create a mesh that covers and protects you instead.
By protecting yourself with a mesh, it allows only the good to flow in, and the energy that is not yours to carry to bounce back.
Visualizing a mesh like this and setting an intention can be so powerful and can help you to set healthy boundaries with others and with certain environments.
During Venus’ time retrograding through Scorpio we are really going to be challenged to make these transformations, but while Venus is in Libra, we are going to be encouraged to think about how our actions are affecting others.
Every action we take creates a ripple effect around the entire Universe. With Venus retrograding through Libra, we are going to be encouraged to really think about the other, and to reflect on whether we are treating people how we wish to be treated.
So many of us avoid wearing our heart on our sleeves because we have been hurt by people we have loved or trusted. While getting hurt is a part of life, we can also take the time to be conscious of how our actions are affecting others, and how our actions are contributing to the pain-body of the Universe.
Venus retrograde runs deep and we may see all of this energy manifesting in our relationships, in our creative projects, in our work, and with how we choose to love ourselves.
We all hold Venus energy inside of us, we all hold heart energy inside of us, and the more we learn to use it in the way that works best for us, the further we will be able to blossom.
Venus retrograde is a time where all matters of the heart come to the surface, but use this as an opportunity to balance your heart energy and treat others with a bit more kindness.
Venus’ Descent Into The Underworld: From Evening Star To Morning Star
Venus Retrograde – Venus’ Descent Into The Underworld
Venus goes retrograde less than any other planet, but when it does, it touches us to the core of our heart.
Venus retrograde is similar to a descent into the underworld: a part of us must die so that a new version of ourselves can emerge.
Did you know that Venus, our sister planet, is the 3rd brightest object in the sky, after the Sun and the Moon? Venus affects us deeply, and when it changes direction, our life changes too.
Venus retrograde is so much more significant because it happens only once every 1,5 years of 584 days. And Venus retrograde is nothing else but the beginning on a new Venus cycle.
Yes, just like Sun has a cycle (365 days, or a year), just like Moon has a cycle (29 days, or a lunar month), so does Venus.
What is spectacular about the Venus cycle is that it has two distinct phases: Venus rising as a morning star, and as an evening star.
For 9 months (btw, did you know that Venus cycle correlates to the human gestation?) Venus rises before the Sun. This is her morning star phase.
She then disappears from the sky for approximately 2 months. After 2 months, she rises again, this time as an evening star. After that Venus disappears again, this time for two weeks. A new Venus cycle starts, with Venus rising again as a morning star.
Complicated? Venus’ movement back and forth, before and after the Sun can seem confusing (it was confusing for our ancestors too, and some cultures believed that Venus was two different stars!).
When Venus transforms from an evening star to a morning star, she actually disappears from the sky. Venus goes retrograde.
The Rebirth Of Venus
Venus retrograde happens exactly at the end of a Venus cycle when Venus shifts from an evening star to a morning star.
Venus changes her clothes from an evening lady to a morning warrior.
When retrograde, Venus has to leave behind her beautiful evening gown and embrace the purity of nature. This is the rebirth of Venus.
Venus retrograde is nothing else but Venus’ rebirth.
The transformation is a complete metamorphosis. No wonder Venus retrograde completely turns our life upside down, too.
I know people who lock themselves in the house, refuse to go out, say no to invitations, don’t make any purchase, and don’t even go to the hairdresser when Venus is retrograde. But unless we understand that Venus retrograde is a necessary process of transformation, we will miss out greatly on opportunities to change ourselves and our lives for the better.
Venus is retrograde for 40 days. Many myths have been connected to the 40 days period: Jesus was tempted in the wilderness for 40 days. Moses and the ancient Hebrews wandered in the wilderness for 40 days. Buddha is said to have fasted and meditated for 40 days before reaching Samadhi.
But perhaps the most significant Venus retrograde myth is the Sumerian myth of Inanna’s descent into the underworld.
Venus And The Myth Of Inanna
Inanna is no one else but the Sumerian counterpart of Venus. Inanna was the Goddess of fertility and abundance and the most important deity of the times.
Her morning and evening phase where indicators of agricultural productivity. Food was the most important thing for our ancestors, food basically meant life. No wonder Inanna (Venus) played such an important role at the time.
The myth of Inanna’ descent into the underworld is nothing else but an allegory of Venus’ retrograde cycle.
- The myth starts with Inanna deciding to travel to the underworld to visit her sister Ereshkigal, the Goddess of the Underworld. To the Sumerians, Venus disappearing under the horizon meant Venus went to the Underworld
- Inanna passes through 7 gates to Underworld and she has to remove a piece of clothing or jewelry at each gate–> she needs to let go of her old identification of the self
- She finally arrives in the Underworld, but her sister decides to kill her –> this is the phase when Venus is conjunct the Sun and a new Venus cycle starts. To start anew, a part of us must die
- The goddess of the Underworld who strikes Inanna dead is nothing else but our shadow side, which we need to learn to integrate
- Emissaries from the Earth come to rescue Inanna and resurrect her. Inanna is resurrected and comes back to Earth –> this is the phase when Venus appears again in the sky, this time as a morning star.
- Inanna’s myth is the story of Venus retrograde when Venus ‘shapeshifts’ from Evening Star to the Morning Star.
- At the beginning of Venus retrograde, Venus appears to change her direction and starts moving backward
- Venus becomes invisible in the evening sky as she is approaching the conjunction with the Sun
- Mid-retrograde cycle Venus conjuncts the Sun and a new Venus cycle starts
- 7 days after the conjunction Venus appears again, this time in the morning sky
- And 10 days after her appearance, Venus finally starts to move forward again.
The Real Meaning Of Venus Retrograde
Two things are important to keep in mind about Venus retrograde:
- Venus changes from an evening star to a morning star–> Venus retrograde is about a metamorphosis from one state of being to another
- Venus starts a new cycle –> Venus retrograde will come with a new beginning in your life.
Venus retrograde and a new beginning? This can come as a surprise to you because you probably have a long list of things you should NOT do when Venus (or any other planet) is retrograde.
But now that you know that Venus actually starts a new cycle when retrograde, it makes sense it comes with new opportunities.
That’s not the case in the first half of Venus retrograde. The first 20 days of Venus retrograde are about letting go of the old, and NOT a time for new beginnings. This is when old lovers or unfinished things from the past come into your life – so that you can finally deal with them.
So yes, the first half of Venus retrograde is about letting go of something of value.
However, when we start the second half of Venus retrograde things take a completely different turn.
This is a little-known secret but exactly at the middle of the Venus retrograde (this will be October 26, 2018), when Venus is conjunct the Sun and closest to the Earth, this is the best time for a new beginning. This is when you have more free will than ever. In the heart of the Sun, you can manifest whatever your heart desires.
This is also a time of confusion. When Venus is conjunct the Sun, she is also invisible. Things may not be what they seem. But now, more than ever, it is important to listen to your heart. Even when the actual evidence may be missing, it’s important to listen to what your heart is trying to tell you.
This doesn’t mean you should make a big decision yet. It will take a few more days until Venus will appear in the sky again (on November 5th). This is when things will start to make more sense to you.
As you can see, there is so much more to Venus retrograde than ‘don’t start a new relationship now’ or ‘don’t make important decisions’. Venus retrograde will come with changes, that’s for sure, but the purpose of these changes is to make you a better person.
Let the heat of the Sun burn you, just like Venus throws herself into the arms of the Sun, just like Inanna is killed by her alter-ego, Ereshkigal.
If you do it, you will finally shed your old skin, and let go of whatever is no longer serving you.
And then, just like Venus is born again, this time in the morning sky, a new you will emerge.
At the time Venus is conjunct the Sun, she is as close to the Earth as she can be. This is the time to have an honest look at your core values and discover what you hold most dear.
Yes, Venus retrograde can initially come with a loss. You will have to let go of old values, relationships, or your attitude to these relationships. But if you do it, then your life will be completely transformed.
Venus Morning Star, Venus Evening Star
Venus retrograde is that part of the 19 months or 584-day Venus cycle when Venus changes from an evening star to a morning star.
Venus spends half of the cycle as a morning star and the other half of the cycle as an evening star.
These two faces of Venus correspond to the two signs Venus rules: Taurus and Libra.
Taurus has the characteristics of Venus as a morning star, and Libra has the characteristics of Venus as an evening star.
When Venus rises a morning star, before the Sun, she is straightforward, sensual, and keen to meet her needs and desires.
Venus morning star is about self-love – about learning how to love yourself for who you are, straight and simple.
You were born with Venus as a morning star if your Venus is before your Sun in your natal chart. EXAMPLE: If you are a Virgo, but your Venus is in Leo or Cancer, you are a Venus morning star. If you are a Virgo and your Venus is also in Virgo, Venus has to be before the Sun (e.g. Venus is at 10° Virgo, and Sun is at 20° Virgo).
When Venus rises as an evening star, she has learned about self-love. She is now is concerned with the love for another. That’s why she appears in the sky AFTER the Sun has set (which is a symbol for Libra).
Venus is now interested in others. You were born with Venus as an evening star if Venus is after your Sun in your natal chart. EXAMPLE: if you are a Virgo, but your Venus is in Libra or Scorpio, you are a Venus evening star. If you are a Virgo and your Venus is also in Virgo, Venus has to be after the Sun (e.g. Sun is at 10° Virgo, and Venus is at 20° Virgo).
We can see the two faces of Venus everywhere in nature, and in art.
Let’s take two famous painters who depicted Venus in their masterpieces.
Firstly, there is Titian, who captures the raw sensuality, materialism, the physical love of Taurus, or Venus as a morning star. Look at her, she oozes sensuality!
And then there is the famous’ Botticelli “the birth of Venus”. He focuses on the delicacy, beauty, perfection, and serenity that are Libra – or Venus evening star qualities.
Venus is depicted naked. She is naked just like Inanna was left naked when she arrived at the Underworld, got killed and then resurrected. Her nudity represents the essence of love, those values that never die, true love and beauty.
Venus is depicted naked. She is naked just like Inanna was left naked when she arrived in the Underworld, got killed and then resurrected. Her nudity represents the essence of love, those values that never die, true love and true beauty.
Venus: Self-Love And Selfless Love
We need both types of Venus in our life: self-love (Venus morning star) and selfless love (Venus evening star).
Your Venus natal phase tells you which type of love you were born to master in this lifetime.
Are you a Venus morning star? You then need to master self-love. You need to learn how to love yourself. Attention, narcissism is not self-love, it’s, in fact, a lack of self-love masked as self-love. True self-love does not need validation from the outside.
Are you a Venus evening star? You then need to master selfless love, the love for the other. This doesn’t mean you have to become a doormat and do whatever it takes to please the other. It simply means to love ‘the other’ for who they are.
No matter what your natal Venus phase is, Venus retrograde is a reminder that in order to fully embrace Venus, you need to explore both. You cannot love the other if you don’t love yourself. And what is self-love alone, if it cannot be shared with another?
Venus retrograde is a promise that just like Inanna rose from the dead, your heart can rise too, into more and more love, with every Venus retrograde cycle.